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Senin, 21 Desember 2015

5 Things to consider before conceiving a Baby {Pregnancy}

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5 things to consider before conceiving a baby

So, today, I have come up with something very different to what I used to discuss with all of you. This is for all those females who are ready for conception or even in half way through their confinement. So, lets us see what all we have on the list!!




Physical Fitness

The first thing to ascertain is that you both are physically well to conceive a new life. You should consult a doctor and get genetic carrier screening to make sure you do not suffer from any of the hereditary issues which can be carried to the baby as well. This is especially important for a mother.

Also, another specialist you should consider visiting is a dentist. Yup, your undetected gum problems and bad oral health can cause miscarriage!! In fact, it is said that a good oral routine during the pregnancy alone prevents a lot of miscarriages!! 

A doctor consultation also helps decode what medicines you might be taking and whether they should be taken or not!! And, a pre-check up is also informative about the proper dates of conception and what all other things should be kept in mind medically!! 

5 things to consider before conceiving a baby

Healthy Lifestyle

Howsoever you might be leading a healthy or a hectic or a stressful life, you do not ever want your kid to enter the world in those circumstances. So, it is a good time to get onto the healthy schedule which you have forever been procastinating!
  • Getting up early in the morning
  • Skipping on the junk food and actually consuming regular HEALTHY meals all through the day
  • Not stressing about anything in particular
  • Exercising everyday or at least 3 times a day
  • Controlling weight
  • Cutting back on the caffeine
  • Going to bed early
So, these are just few things which should be on your list. Btw, I would like to again stress on being back in shape and bringing your weight under control. For one, if you are overweight it puts extra stress on your spinal cord and you might get prone to backaches after your delivery. And, secondly, coming back into shape is easier if you are healthier before! 

#DidYouKnow you should not gain more than 9kgs during child bearing!!


Financial Well-being

This is in conjunction to the earlier point. You will be obviously less stressed when you do not have to think about money. So, get over your money troubles way before thinking of a baby. You would want to provide every possible luxury to them, as much as you can afford!! 

But, overspending or not being able to buy their basic needs definitely come under the not-being-financially-sound for a baby. So, do have considerable savings and be able to plan for at least next two years of budget including all the baby things which are very expensive now a days!! And, do not forget the vacations. 

Some people do think of too much like getting a house and a car and a good career and so delay the baby process. But, I would like to mention here that too much of a delay is not really good for either the baby or the parents and the car and career and your house can be accommodated along with the baby. 

When I am talking about finance, I just mean a well-settled life and having enough to spend on your family without feeling the pinch! Not waiting for your entire life to get into order. There is no perfect time for such things!!

5 things to consider before conceiving a baby

Emotional Well-being

Now, that we have physical fitness and finances taken care of, the couple that is you both must be emotionally ready to take charge of a new life among you both. Get rid of all the family issues you might have with your extended family, among yourselves and other things. 

And, if they are unavoidable, stop creating a negative environment and stressing yourself about them. I know it is not as easy to do as to write about it but I can just say that being positive and happy is the only solution to that problem. And, both you and your spouse must be happy and accept the situation as they are. Either of you cribbing will not help!!

Environment

So, now that you are probably entirely ready, I would say consider the environment in which you would want to bring up your kid. For example, you might not be staying in the most ideal location. 

Or, you have been thinking of moving to a safer and a place where there are a lot of kids or may be closer to a school or a play school. It is better to make such decisions beforehand because last minute shifting and things might not be really possible. Similarly, have a doctor closer at hand as well. Or, a hospital.

These are just a few things which I can come up with right now which you should consider before conceiving. Now, it is your turn. What do you think are some of the things which must be considered? What have you considered, if you are already pregnant or have a baby? How did you pre-conception time come about?


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Kamis, 24 September 2015

Feminism or Gender Equality {Women Stuff}

Ok, so, how do you really define or understand feminism. When I googled for the dictionary definition, I got "the advocacy of women's rights on the ground of the equality of the sexes".

Before I really get into terms and meanings, the logical question which comes to my mind is why do we need to advocate women's rights and not men's? Why is it so obvious that men will have all the freedom in the world right from ridiculing women to being granted the freedom if they do not fulfil their familial responsibilities up to the mark when compared with a female.

Granted that nature has defined a standard role for women and yes, as much as we want to say, nothing a man can do can replace the necessity of a woman. She is the soul of the house and family. And, this cause itself should be the ultimate liberating factor for a woman.

I really do not understand feminism that well but what I have seen in my own circle is, well, boys do not have the right to express their feelings. If a female cries, even males come and listen. If a male cries, not one female is gonna give a shit! So, why do we not talk about giving rights and freedom to both the sexes.

When a girl is raped, it becomes the talk of town. Does anyone even remember that even men or at least boy child are also abused in an equal measure. In such a case, it becomes a case of child abuse instead of a male human harassment case. Why is that only females have the right to speak if they are not happy in marriage and why not the males who are oppressed by dominant females who control their every action.

If the girl is not able to bond with her in-laws, she is accused or insulted and if by chance the boy takes her side, irrespective of where the blame lies, he is immediately termed as a joru-ka-ghulam (wife's servant) and all further relations are cut off. Why does the boy not have the freedom to speak openly in such a matter, taking in the case of girl being right. 

And, by chance, if a girl demands divorce from a perfectly innocent boy's family because of the issues created by her, why does the boy's family have to go through the stigma of divorce and looted by the girl's family in the name of alimony. Why is a female given so much of a leeway?

Is it not the responsibility of both the genders to respect each other and in case of any disagreements, part ways amicably and without any future damages? 

How do you define feminism? Or, do you advocate gender equality?

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Sabtu, 25 Juli 2015

How to deal with insecurities during Pregnancy? {Women Stuff}

So, today was a good day because I came to know that one of my friend has finally become pregnant. Now, there is a new insecurity in her. She is just 4 weeks along and the heartbeat of the baby has not yet been heard on ultrasound.

Apparently, the heart beat can be heard on an ultrasound at latest by 7 weeks. And, her doc said it would take 5 weeks. Ok, I have no idea why the doc said so and may be she is right and google is wrong!

Anyways, my friend is scared to death about it. She wants the heartbeat like right now! I told her that 5 weeks is too soon for it, probably. I am obviously not well-informed but everyone around said so.

The main issue here is that she is insecure. She has been trying for a baby seriously since like 9-10 months at max. Honestly, I do not think it is too long a time because one year is generally a give and take when you are trying to conceive and she was under hell lot of stress for the past few months.

Two months back there was a significant delay in her periods and she was almost expecting she is carrying. Unfortunately, the reports turned out to be negative.

Moreover, it has been four years to her marriage and everyone around is hankering her for a baby. You know how insensitive people can get, right? We tried our level best to make her feel comfortable but it is something she has to let go.

I think it is a very common thing to get insecure in such a situation. There are so many changes in the physiology that attending to the moods and hormonal changes themselves are too much, leave taking care of office issues and other things at home!

What do you think is the best thing to combat such irrational thoughts? Do they affect the baby? Or, will these things just settle with time and she will get used to it?

PS: I just found out that heart starts beating at 22 days but might not be audible on the ultrasound till 5-6 weeks. Heart Beat is the first viable sign of pregnancy. And, I am keeping my fingers crossed!

PS 2: The images have been taken from google and I do not claim any ownership.

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